I heard an interesting interview of a mental health professional. (I never remember names.) She said there was a stress study of cadets. The expectation was the cadets’ stress would be highest in the beginning of their studies or even when nearing finals and graduation. The highest stress was after they passed their classes and their careers were promising. The research discovered that the stress was higher because they no longer were in a struggle together, no longer in unity with their classmates.
I find that is true of me (and maybe you) during this pandemic. We are not pulling together as Americans. One political party is not the enemy of the other, unless individuals create chaos by reposting feeding-frenzy nonsense. I personally am not going to be used by manipulators manufacturing articles to divide us. I believe science, not fantasies. I believe most people on both sides of the aisle are basically good and share my American values.
I am stressed each time a friend posts another deep state conspiracy. Government workers are our hard working neighbors who have children and grandchildren who play with our children/grandchildren. They keep us safe in law enforcement, process paper by the tons, work for the VA, investigate nursing homes complaints, and keep our tap water clean, etc… etc…..
I am stressed by people who post their rights to infect others (me!) by not wearing a mask or curtailing their activities. As much as I grieve for those who lost loved ones – almost 80,000 families, we could have had twice that number if we had not been responsible. The time out was not a waste of my time. I had no burning desire to kill someone (the elderly, medical personnel, my neighbors). I am a grown-up and can be still for a brief time.
I am stressed by people, most churched and professing love, who have chosen to be hateful rather than be my friend on FB. It is a choice. I will miss them, but not the hate.
My stress goes down when I behave in a loving manner, am kind and rational. My choice. What I control. I hope more of my friends regain their loving centers before we are lost to one another. No one can have too many friends, especially during a pandemic.